About this guide
Explore ways to meet women, build connection, and date with more clarity and confidence. You choose the language and relationship goals that fit you; there is no single right way to be lesbian or to date.
For lesbian, queer, and questioning adults 18+ who date women, including people exploring their identity or returning to dating after a pause. Explore meeting people, building connection, communicating intentions, and setting boundaries. Choose the language and relationship goals that fit you.
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A comfortable way to read this guide
Read one section at a time, at a pace that works for you. Exercises are optional and private: skip, adapt, or pause an activity, then return when you’re ready. To find another topic, explore the full guide collection.
Who it’s for
Lesbian, queer, and questioning adults who date women, including people exploring their identity or returning after a pause.
What the guide covers
- Start with your goals, values, and dating preferences
- Explore apps and queer communities that fit your comfort level
- Move from a match to a meaningful conversation
- Plan first dates and choose a pace that feels comfortable
- Practice communication, boundaries, and consent
- Assess compatibility and navigate common queer dating situations
How to use it
The guide is designed for flexible, self-paced learning. Use the topics and reflection activities that fit your situation, skip anything that does not, and return as your goals change. The guide is educational and is not therapy or a promise of a particular relationship outcome.
Browse all guides. One guide is $50 without email support or $70 with substantive email support. Checkout and appointment scheduling are not open yet.
What you’ll practice
- Clarify your relationship goals, identity, and comfort with dating.
- Explore affirming ways to meet queer women and start conversations.
- Practice boundaries and choose a pace that feels right for you.
Choose how to use this guide
Guide only: The guide is a practical first step for self-improvement and personal growth. It offers knowledge and exercises on its topic—such as profile creation, dating choices, communication, and relationships—for you to use at your own pace. No consultation is included.
Guide + consultation ($150): Pair this guide with one 50-minute phone or scheduled text session. Work with your coach on creating or improving your dating profile, or any other dating question, such as messages, conversation practice, or dating strategy. This is one consultation, not ongoing coaching.
Consultation only ($75): One 50-minute phone or scheduled text session to help create or improve your dating profile, or work through any other dating question. No guide is included.
Each self-study guide is $50 without email support or $70 with substantive email support about its material. Email replies help you understand and work through the purchased guide; this is not ongoing coaching. Digital guide purchases are non-refundable except where required by law. Checkout and appointment scheduling are not open yet. Guide + Consultation is $150 and includes one guide with email support plus one 50-minute session. A standalone 50-minute consultation is $75. See consulting package details.
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